Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Reader Question

Bethany T. writes:

Hi, I had a question for you guys. If you could give me some insight, I would really appreciate it. I am the only SAHD in my church. How might I balance keeping my beliefs and opinions to myself to not offend, and being honest and giving folks a different perspective outside of the college/career path? I don't know what sort of sympathies you have in your church, but any insight you might have would be helpful. Thanks, Bethany T.

My soul waits in silence for God only; From Him is my salvation. He only is my rock and my salvation, My stronghold; I shall not be greatlyshaken. Psalm 62:2

I'm going to share a little bit of encouragement for Bethany, then I'd like our readers to chime in with whatever they feel appropriate!

First of all, Bethany, I know just how you feel. There are quite a few stay-at-home daughters in my church, but I know many others who are not at all understanding about my current position. When you are living your life to the glory of God, you are going to have people look at you funny now and then. If not, then you are doing something wrong. I take comfort in that daily!

Don't worry about offending others. Live your life the way the Lord leads you! As long as you are displaying a gentle and quiet spirit, the Lord will take care of the hearts those around you in his perfect will. When asked about your situation, or your convictions, explain in the politest way possible, answering every question with as much insight as you think will best benefit the inquirer. Don't get into a confrontation - if someone is getting pushy or trying to sway you, let your father (or mother) handle it. Most of the time, this will not happen. I usually have people get very quiet or try to change the subject.

Simply modeling a biblical worldview and a gentle and quiet spirit will show others that you are different from the average college aged girl. Most people who ask will have a genuine interest in your beliefs and why you do what you do - even if they are not likeminded.

Trust the Lord, Bethany, model your beliefs in your behavior and answer other's questions politely. Don't be afraid to offend others. Let them be offended if they wish - you're not telling them what they have to do with their life, you're simply living as the Lord leads you.

I hope this answers your question! If you have any extra, or more specific questions feel free to comment! Readers, please chime in with your thoughts on this matter, I'm sure you can be much more eloquent and helpful than I can!


Geri said...

I have a question for you. It may be the wrong question but here goes. Do you think you can go back? Some of us did'nt have the same beginnings that you have, but now maybe we want to start over...

The Girls said...

Hey,Bethany I feel the SAME WAY!!!As a horse trainers daughter I get ALOT of I-don't-understand-why-u-want to be a STAHD.
Hang in there!We really gotta fight for it!

Flibby said...

Geri! Sorry to be so late to respond to you.

You certainly can! Joel 2:25 says, And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.

Continue your life, not being filled with regrets, but rejoicing in the Lord! He will continue a good work in you!

Remember, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God. (Luke 9:62)

Anonymous said...

What a wonderful answer. I especially liked how you stressed having a quiet and gentle spirit. God richly rewards those who follow Him with all of their hearts in all humility and transparency.

Miss Rose Virginia Butler said...

Oh, I have the same dillema. I mean, we're currently looking for a church home, but the churches my mom leans toward are more modern, rock and roll type of places. I just know I'm going to get lots of questions and blank stares in the upcoming weeks.

Flibby said...

I'll be praying for you Miss Rose!

Maria Pauline said...

Amen! I have recently decided to become a stay at home daughter, perhaps partially due to your blog. Thanks so much for the work you do promoting SAHD!

Maria Pauline