Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10*
Who is the Proverbs 31 Woman?
The proverbs 31 woman is indeed an amazing individual. I am sure you have heard, at least once, of the qualities of the excellent wife that King Lemuel writes about. She is rare and precious and an asset to her husband. She is industrious and generous. She cares for those around her with a womanly strength. And, she is married. So, since she is married and I am not, I don’t need to bother with that chapter right? I need to be married before I can become a “Proverbs 31 women”. Wrong! A proverbs 31 woman is a woman who lives her life for Christ by serving others. You can be the virtuous woman King Lemuel writes about in Proverbs 31 even while you are yet unmarried.
Are You a Proverbs 31 Woman?
What can I learn from the proverbs 31 woman? Can she teach me things that I can use now? Yes! We as unmarried daughters can learn much from her example.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
Are you trustworthy? Can others trust you not to gossip and to keep your word? Do you endeavor to serve your family and not just further yourself? You are a virtuous woman!
“She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.”
Do you make the most of your opportunities to learn and work and use the resources you have? Do you willingly help when asked, with a cheerful spirit even when it is not enjoyable? You are a virtuous woman!
“She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.”
Do you consider before you spend your time and money, that you may do it wisely? Are you investing and developing the skills and assets you possess that you may have more with to serve the Lord? You are a virtuous woman!
“She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.”
Do you take care of your body to be healthy and better equipped? Do you do your best in everything you put your hand to, and look for ways to go above and beyond what you are required to do? You are a virtuous woman!
“She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.”
Are you ready to assist not only those who are poor in material things, but also those who are poor in friends, poor in kindness, poor in joy? Are you willing to reach out to those around you who need the love of Christ shown to them? You are a virtuous woman!
“Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.”
Do you take into consideration the clothing of your behavior, and not just the clothing that covers your body? Will you look back on your life and rejoice, knowing you have done what you can to glorify the Lord with your actions? You are a virtuous woman!
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
Is your conversation edifying and true? Do you speak of things that will encourage others? Are you gentle with your words? You are a virtuous woman!
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”
Do you care for your family first, and are you ready to do what is needed? Are you making the most of your time, and endeavoring not just to be busy, but to serve the Lord whole-heartedly? You are a virtuous woman!
Endeavor to Be a Proverbs 31 Woman
You, the unmarried daughter, can be a proverbs 31 woman! Husband or no, there are people the Lord has placed in your life whom you will be a witness to through the example of your cheerful attitude and loving service.
Let’s look at the last thing King Lemuel tells us about the proverbs 31 woman:
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
Being a virtuous woman is not about outward beauty, or being admirable. It is about working the works of God. It is being a witness of Jesus to those around you. It is letting your service to the Lord show others what the work of Christ can do in an individual.
Above all else, fear the Lord and you will become a woman to be praised by God. Sow the fear of the Lord, and gather the fruit, wisdom. (Pro 1:7) Sow the fear of man, and gather the fruit, a snare. (Pro 29:25) Please, sow wisely! You will reap the fruit of your hands, whether good or bad. May Christ our Savior guide you in His path, and show you how to serve Him.
Daughter of God, strive to be a virtuous woman!
*All scripture quotations taken from the King James Bible.
Bethany T. is an eighteen year old stay-at-home daughter currently living with her family. She enjoys teaching and playing piano, being a mother’s helper, sewing, and investing in those around her.